MENTAL DIET: THIRTY POWERS OF AN IRRESISTIBLE PERSONALITY (5)

Start every morning on a clean slate. Self-discipline and self-control are the dual carriers that empower an irresistible personality.

PERSONALITY POWER 15: BE A GOOD FINDER

An analysis was conducted decades ago of 100 self-made millionaires; ranging from the ages of 21 to well over 70 and with an educational background spanning from grade school to the Ph.D. level. These self-made millionaires had one thing in common -They could see the good in other people and in every situation.

Look for the good and the good you will see. Seek for the grandest and the grandest you will find. Whatever you diligently look for will be attracted to you. The meditations of the heart become the habitation of life. And the heart which seeks good finds serenity and the joy of living.

When you look for trouble you find travail. Discouraging thoughts strip you of the courage to forge ahead. Dejected thoughts make your life degenerate. Melancholy thoughts make you mean-spirited. Gloomy thoughts make you gravitate into the pit of despair.

When you look for the best in others you bring out the best in yourself. When we look beyond the behavior of others to their inner core of what the person can be, we treat them differently and our lives will make a difference.

The opposite of a good finder is a fault-finder. Go through life looking for the beautiful rather than the ugly; look for the noble rather than the ignoble; look for the virtue rather than the vice; look for the strength rather than weakness; look for the good rather than the bad; look for the positive rather than the negative and you will manifest the confidence, happiness, and success you desire.

Develop the habit of appreciating people as a way of life; appreciate people for what they can do rather than criticize them for what they cannot do; appreciate people for what they have done rather than blame them for what they have not done. Appreciation raises the level and quality of performance. Destructive criticism lowers the level and quality of performance. Appreciation boosts self-confidence. Criticism bursts self-confidence.

Therefore, trade-off faultfinding for the big pay-off of being a good finder and you will leave people better than when you met them and you will also become a better person.

PERSONALITY POWER 16: CHARITY – LOVE

The love shield and the goodwill shield guards our hearts from discordant thoughts.

When bitterness and envy lurk within our hearts our abilities become locked from maximum expression. The condition of our work will reflect the condition of our mind. When bitterness, jealousy, hatred, envy, and all uncharitable thoughts are trapped in the mind our potentials and abilities become trapped and we are unable to give expression to the best of which we are capable.

To wade off hatred, bitterness, envy, revenge, and jealous thoughts we must guard our minds with the love shield and goodwill shield. 

PERSONALITY POWER 17: TOLERANCE

Tolerance implies open-mindedness. It is the ability to respect the opinion and viewpoints of others even when we do not agree with them. It is the capacity to accept our differences and uniqueness without judging others or trying to put them into our mold. In the absence of tolerance, prejudice reigns-pre-judging people without knowing and understanding them. Do unto others as you would have them do to you is a good rule to follow.

PERSONALITY POWER 18: CHEERFULNESS

Cheerfulness soothes the mind and body. It eases the stress of life and relaxes the nerves. It is a coveted personality trait because it gladdens the heart eliminating the miserable demeanor and brightening outlook.

 Sidney Newton Bremer reveals, “You might have wealth in the form of vast material possessions, you might have a high office in government, you might have eminent social standing, you might sit upon a throne, you might be a power in the world, but all of these are insignificant as compared with the cheerful disposition that comes from the knowledge of knowing that you are truly the child of a living God”.

Nothing captivates the hearts of people more than graciousness of manner, cordiality of bearing, generosity of feeling, and helpful disposition. The individual, who carries an aura of warmth and friendliness; who is stripped of selfishness and lives to give; who spread sunlight instead of shadows; harmony instead of discord; cheerfulness instead of gloom; praises instead of criticism; beauty instead of ugliness; truth instead of error; love instead of hate and magnanimity instead of pettiness is admired and welcome anywhere.