“The first and best victory is to conquer self”.

  • Plato.

What is the fundamental or basic requirement for success in every facet of life? What is the distinguishing mark between success and failure? What is needed to bridge the gap between where you are now and where you want to be? What is the single factor that is responsible for sustainable success? Self-control unlocks the answers to these questions.

To journey on the success route you must root out excuses from your mind lest you rule out success from your life. Excuses are the comfort zone of losers who justify and rationalize their position of comfort in a retrogressing zone of life.

To become more you must become more self-disciplined. You give up on your goals and dreams only when you give into lack of self-discipline. Self-discipline is what makes success possible and lack of self-discipline is what makes failure inevitable.

The short-cut mentality is the reserve of those who are short on self-discipline. The pursuit of get-rich-schemes and easy money are the pursuit of those who lack self-discipline.

Someone once said, “The shortest way to success is to know from the out-set that there are no short-cuts to success”.

Herein lies the bane of many destinies: the desire or craving to seek the fastest and easiest way to get what you want in the present without any thoughtful consideration or concern for the long term consequence of your actions.


Doing what is hard but necessary may not always be an easy choice to make but the payoff is inestimable which guarantees success without regrets both in the short-term and in the long-term of life.

There can never be mastery in any frontier of life without self-mastery.  When your appetites, emotions, impulses or inclinations become your master your destiny is in the danger zone of life; if you do not develop self-mastery in order to change direction, your life will eventually lead to destiny wreckage.Your ability to control what you say and what you do is the power to direct your destiny.

Self-discipline is giving up short-term pleasures that lead to long term pressures. It is denying you the laxity of moral compromise in order to gain the guaranteed promise of long-term success. It is delayed gratification that leads to delivered satisfaction. It is living above the lures of falling into temptation in the dungeon of failure.

To turn on your success drive and keep it cruising on the highway of success is to tune into the frequency of thought that views life from long-term perspective or consequence of every action you take.

You must have the forethought and develop the foresight of where your choices or actions will lead before determining in the present your choice of action. In other words, you must ask yourself, “Will this choice of action lead to shaping the kind of person I want to become and will it deliver on my life’s goals?

The person of self-discipline lives in the awareness that there are things he must do in order to steer his life’s course and stay on the course of success; equally, there are things he must never do if he must stay the course of success.

The individual needs no external laws or “supervision” because he has aligned self with the laws of success through self-discipline. Consequently, his life is on course in every ramification – work, career, marriage, relationships, and finances and in character.

Therefore, it is critical that your actions must be in harmony with where you want to end up in life; neglecting or ignoring this principle is to end up in failure.

“If you want to have a happy marriage, be the kind of person who generates positive energy and sidesteps negative energy rather than empowering it. If you want to have a more pleasant, cooperative teenager, be a more understanding, empathic, consistent, loving parent. If you want to have more freedom, more latitude in your job, be more responsible, a more helpful, a more contributing employee. If you want to be trusted, be trustworthy. If want the secondary greatness of recognized talent, focus first on primary greatness of character.”

  • Stephen R. Covey.


Timeless Gem

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About the Author


Udeme Archibong is a prolific writer, an astute communicator and a model of excellence. Her writings have made profound impact on thousands of lives around the world through her blog:, which has followings in over 70 countries in continents of the world.

She is a Self-Development Expert, who passionately works towards helping people maximize their destinies.

At some point, she was a motivational columnist, writing Success Recipe and Destiny Catalyst, for two Nigerian national newspapers, Vanguard and ThisDay, respectively. She is the initiator of the Revolution Series Seminars