Circumstances and events are the thermostats of our emotions: what people did to us; what they said to or about us can trigger negative emotions to invade our minds if we dwell on them.
Whenever we ignore or neglect our conscience and indulge in what is wrong or treat people badly without apologizing and choosing to act better in future events, we trigger negative emotions. In fact, most times negative emotions perpetuate when there are unresolved issues within us that we refuse to confront and this affects our personality adversely.
What you confront, you will confound. What you hide from torments you. What you run away from catches up with you. What you face and deal with surrenders to you. Until you speak it out, you can’t let it out. Until you let it out, you can’t get out toxic emotions.
Feelings can be distorted and corruptible-a choice can be morally wrong but it may feel right or morally right but it may feel wrong. Therefore, emotions are not a dependable source of direction for our actions or choices in life. Emotions should be weighed in the scale of timeless principles and if found wanting should be overridden with wise actions.
Emotionally driven people lose their sense of moderation. And when moderation is lost bondage or slavery sets in. Most times the root of negative emotions are pains and hurts lurking within the recesses of our hearts that we had locked within us from our childhood and growing into adulthood, we think we can move on without confronting these root issues and dealing with them. Definitely, we can move on but we will never move up and move ahead if these root issues triggering negative emotions are not dealt with or resolved.
We should not live in denial of our emotions and we certainly should not be a slave to our emotions. We should acknowledge, control, and re-direct negative emotions so that it should not dictate our choices or actions. When we talk through how we feel the way we want to feel, we will go through to the other side of victory. When we talk about how we feel, we will groan through and relive the feelings. When we bottle up how we feel, we will be a bundle of beaten-down cases.
When negative emotions stir up within, don’t level down to it rather level up above it by expressing it in the right way. You can go to your own corner and express how you feel to God and ask Him to help you overcome the negative emotions and make the right and wise choices. Let the Holy Spirit be your closest companion through life, He is your Helper; let Him help you through life.
Living a balanced life breeds emotional stability. Living truly is the key that unlocks the door to emotional stability. Never live a life controlled by the expectations of others or being desperate for their acceptance and approval, it leads to an emotional breakdown. Be validated from within.
Hidden negative secrets in the heart degenerate into emotional and physically traumatic experiences that could wreck personality and relationships. Exposing the hidden secrets of our hearts in the light of truth, confronting it, dealing with it, and making restitution frees us from the emotional baggage that weighs us down in the journey of life.
When you feel an emotional outburst rushing within, rush out of the scene and release the “outburst” in the filter of reason and conscience and discard the negatives; get back to act or respond rightly and wisely.
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About the Author
Udeme Archibong is a prolific writer, an astute communicator and a model of excellence. Her writings have made profound impact on thousands of lives around the world through her blog: successrecipeblog.com, which has followings in over 70 countries in continents of the world.
She is a Self-Development Expert, who passionately works towards helping people maximize their destinies.
At some point, she was a motivational columnist, writing Success Recipe and Destiny Catalyst, for two Nigerian national newspapers, Vanguard and ThisDay, respectively. She is the initiator of the Revolution Series Seminars