My name is gossip.

            I have no respect for justice.

            I maim without killing. I break hearts and ruin lives.

            I am cunning, malicious and gather strength with age.

            The more I am quoted, the more I am believed.

            I flourish at every level of society.

            My victims are helpless.

They cannot protect themselves against me because I have no name and no face.

To track me down is impossible. The harder you try, the more elusive I become.

            I am nobody’s friend.

            Once I tarnish a reputation, it is never the same.

I topple governments and wreck marriages. I ruin careers and cause sleepless nights, heartaches and indigestion.

I spawn suspicion and generate grief.

I make innocent people cry in their pillows. Even my name hisses.


I am called GOSSIP, office gossip; shop gossip; party gossip; telephone gossip. I make headlines and headaches. REMEMBER, when you repeat a story, ask yourself: Is it true? Is it fair? Is it necessary? If not, do not repeat it. KEEP QUIET! ”


Gossip is like a raging fire that transports destruction across borders. Gossip saps the beauty out of life. A slanderer slanders destinies with the trap of words. Fault-finding, gossiping, spreading of rumors, tale-bearing are destiny trappers that trample down progress in life into extinction.

Words filled with criticism crushes relationship and life. Words filled with fault-finding leave a life faulty, and if persisted in, eventually breaks down life. Words of encouragement give people the courage to face life with enthusiasm.

 When you praise people you raise them to a higher level of energy. When you habitually compliment people you become ripe to receive commendations for raises from life’s treasured storehouse.

Harping on people’s faults handicaps you from life’s race. Deceitful words breed a disgusting destiny.A critical spirit leads to mental clutter that distorts outlook or perspective in life. When you expunge negativity from your vocabulary you purge your destiny from negativity.


 Until you mind your business you can never be the cynosure of all eyes. If you are petty your life can’t be pretty. A critical spirit, a backbiter, a gossip and a dispenser of discord are the mark of small-minded people. Mind your business; run your race. Unless you learn to run your race, you will rot in the race.

When we learn to mind our business we will desist from trying to run people’s lives with our critical opinions. Everyone has right to have preferences and make choices that may differ from ours. Mind your business unless you genuinely want to help the business of another with a large heart of love and a humble mind.

Strive to keep your opinions to yourself unless you have a responsibility in the situation or you are asked for your opinion. We all have areas in our lives that needs intentional work to becoming better daily rather than seeing the faults of others and harping on them to get rid of their faults.

When we give attention to becoming better we soon discover that by changing ourselves, we also give people the permission to change themselves by our inspiring example. I don’t know about you, working on myself and fulfilling destiny is a lifetime project that keeps me busy with no time to lose but with only the time to use up before I’m taken up.

We should know our limits in the lives of others and we should respect the boundaries.

Speak no evil; speak no hurtful words; engage not in idle chatter and above all speak the truth in love and always make your words count.



Timeless Gem

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About the Author


Udeme Archibong is a prolific writer, an astute communicator and a model of excellence. Her writings have made profound impact on thousands of lives around the world through her blog:, which has followings in over 70 countries in continents of the world.

She is a Self-Development Expert, who passionately works towards helping people maximize their destinies.

At some point, she was a motivational columnist, writing Success Recipe and Destiny Catalyst, for two Nigerian national newspapers, Vanguard and ThisDay, respectively. She is the initiator of the Revolution Series Seminars